It definitely doesn’t seem like men have the advantage in dating when you consider how men usually have to initiate, chase, spend money and work hard to attract women. However, from a big picture perspective, men have a slight advantage in the dating world over women. And I’m not just talking about handsome men, tall men or certain racial groups. I’m talking about men as a whole. Here are the reasons why:
Men have more control over their attractiveness
Unlike women who are primarily judged on youth, health and beauty, men are judged more by accomplishments, status, behavior, skills, education, popularity, resources, power, fame, etc. In other words, a man who can’t pull women today can do a complete 180 tomorrow and have more pussy thrown at him than he can handle. All he needs to do is change certain things about his life, many of which are largely under his control. Men can learn how to be better seducers if they choose. He can invest time into learning about what turns women on and how to behave in different situations to maximize his success.
The only things women have at their disposal are exercise, diet, cosmetics and plastic surgery. Even with doing everything she can to look good, she is largely limited by her genetics. If she is 4 feet tall, there is nothing she can do about it and no amount of money, fame, status or education will raise her sex appeal.
Male Attractiveness is more sustainable
Even if a woman wins the genetic lottery and is lucky enough to be a 10 who most men would give anything to date or bang, she still has one major limitation: Time. A woman is only young and beautiful for a short period of her lifetime. This is generally between ages 18 and 35. Once her youth and beauty starts to fade, so does her sex appeal. This is not even taking into account her reproductive ability, which is much more limited than a man’s. To make matters worse, she can have her beauty taken away in an instant by a freak accident, or any accident for that matter.
Men don’t have to worry about time or aging as much. It’s very possible for a man to keep his attractiveness for life. Even as he ages and loses normal sex appeal, he can still pull women with money, fame or status.
Men can fake attractiveness better
Another advantage men have is the ability to fake how attractive they really are. It’s as simple as lying. A man can pretend to have more money than he really has. He can pretend to know people he really doesn’t know. He can pretend to have access to things he really doesn’t. Obviously this approach can never work for any type of long term relationship, but for a man looking for short term casual fun, there are few limits.
A woman’s ability to fake attractiveness is very limited. She can certainly fake her personality, but she can’t really fake her looks. At best she can use cosmetics to hide skin flaws, change her hair color and style, wear flattering clothing or get cosmetic surgery. But like I said before, she is greatly limited by her genetics.
The main downside to being male is that attracting a women will almost always require some level of effort or work on the man’s part. While a woman can just look pretty and get approached, without having to lift a finger (other than leaving her home and grooming well) a man will have to carefully refine his personality and skills or find a way to achieve great wealth, fame or status. Sure, you might get lucky and win the lottery or be born rich or famous, but that is a very small percentage of men.
I personally like the tradeoff. I prefer to have some ability to control how attractive I am and thus control the types of women I can attracted compared to relying on luck to be born a certain way.