I briefly touched on the subject of DHV (demonstrating High Value) here when I suggested dressing up. The point of that technique is to save you time and allow you to go straight to engaging a woman and building attraction. However, once you’ve started the conversation, the woman will forget about your clothes and focus more on your personality. For this reason, it’s also a good idea to show some value right before you close and ask for her number.

Life Through An Attractive Woman’s Eyes

Attractive women view most men the way normal people view panhandlers and fast talking salesmen. When she gets hit on from random men on the street or in bars, her first reaction is the same as our first reaction to someone trying to beg on the street:

“Great, another person wasting my time with their hand out and offering me nothing”.

That’s the problem. While we all like to think of ourselves as decent people, we also like to give to others on our own terms. We get irritated when someone we don’t know approaches us out of the blue and has the nerve to ask for a favor.

As a player you have to keep this in mind. Picture how a panhandler operates compared to a person handing out tickets for a free contest. How would you react if you’re walking down the street and someone approaches you by saying:

“Hey, you can win $5,000 if you fill out this form and give me your email address”

Now compare that to:

“Hey, do you like children? Thousands of them are dying every day in Africa and they need your help!!”

See how it’s much better when people approach you and actually OFFER SOMETHING? As a player you have to find ways to imply to the women you’re approaching that they stand to gain something. You have to convince them you are providing them with an opportunity and you’re not just some creep trying to get into their pants.

Offer What She Is Seeking

A very common mistake men make in their dating attempts is forgetting that women are selfish. No woman is going to date you just because you’re nice to her or flirted with her a little. She needs to feel she has something to gain or she will not go out with you. Simple as that. This is another reason why you can do the same approach with 10 different women and get 10 different reactions. Some will be interested and others will shut you down. It comes down to what you have that she wants. If all she wants is casual sex, she will respond differently than if she wants someone to pay her bills or someone to travel the world and eat in nice restaurants with.

There are three main qualities you can never go wrong with:

1.    Class and Status
2.    A confident, sexy and witty personality
3.    Good looks, height and physical strength

If you have one or more of these qualities, do your best to advertise them when talking to women. Number 3 does the work for you.

In addition to your personality traits, you need to seem like you offer even more. Seem to offer something else that is less tangible and accessible to her. It should be something that will get her excited to meet you again. It needs to be something mysterious or grand that you hint at to make her curious.  I give actual examples in my book The Lothario Upper Hand.